They won't be vulnerable but analyze: can't or won't? Map vulnerability: fear from past trauma vs. emotionally unavailable vs. not safe with me. Calculate: time together vs. vulnerability increase vs. effort to open up. Show me the vulnerability reality: working on it vs. unwilling vs. not invested enough. Give me the truth: they're trying to be vulnerable, they're closed off. Include: whether they're capable of vulnerability, if relationship feels safe to them, and whether this will change.