I think my relationship is toxic but analyze: is it actually toxic or just difficult? Map "toxic" behaviors: abuse, manipulation, control vs. conflict, different needs, poor communication. Calculate: frequency and severity of concerning behaviors vs. normal relationship challenges. Show me the distinction: actual toxicity vs. incompatibility vs. resolvable conflict. Give me the reality: these are red flags that mean leave, these are fixable issues. Include: whether I'm using "toxic" to avoid accountability, what actual toxicity looks like, and if this relationship is harmful or just hard.