I don't feel respected but analyze: do they actually respect me? Map respect indicators: how they speak to me, about me, decisions about me. Calculate: respectful behaviors vs. disrespectful behaviors vs. relationship health. Show me the respect reality: these behaviors show respect, these show disrespect. Give me the pattern: they disrespect me in these ways. Include: whether they respect me, if respect can be demanded or must be given freely, and whether relationship without respect is worth having.