We don't spend quality time but analyze: what actually counts? Map quality time: my definition vs. their definition vs. actual time together. Calculate: time together vs. engaged time vs. phone-distracted time. Show me the quality time gap: different definitions vs. actual neglect. Give me the reality: this counts as quality time, this is just being present. Include: whether we define quality time differently, what we each need, and if we're actually incompatible in this area.