I carry mental load but analyze: am I allowing this? Map mental load: planning, remembering, anticipating, managing. Calculate: what I do vs. what they do vs. whether I've delegated. Show me the mental load reality: actual imbalance vs. my control tendencies. Give me the truth: they're not carrying weight, I won't let go of control. Include: whether imbalance is real, if I'm enabling it, and how to redistribute mental load.