I need my independence but analyze: am I independent or avoidant? Map my independence: healthy boundaries vs. emotional unavailability vs. fear of intimacy. Calculate: time for self vs. time for relationship vs. avoidance patterns. Show me the independence spectrum: healthy autonomy vs. commitment phobia. Give me the reality: this is healthy independence, this is avoiding intimacy. Include: whether I'm protecting myself or sabotaging connection, if my needs are reasonable, and whether I can do relationships at all.