I'm putting in all the effort but analyze: is that true or perception? Map relationship effort: initiating, planning, emotional labor, compromise. Calculate: my effort vs. their effort vs. what I'm not seeing or counting. Show me the effort reality: actual imbalance vs. different love languages vs. my overgiving. Give me the pattern: who does what, who initiates what, who compromises on what. Include: whether they're actually trying in ways I don't value, if I'm overgiving to control, and whether this imbalance is real.