We communicate but nothing changes but analyze: are we actually communicating or just talking? Map our conversations: do they lead to understanding or just stating positions repeatedly? Calculate: if we've had the same argument 20 times, is communication the problem or is it understanding/action? Show me the communication trap: talking without listening, expressing without changing. Give me the real issue: these aren't communication problems, these are compatibility or willingness problems. Include: whether more talking will help or if we need different actions, what real communication looks like vs. venting, and if this is solvable by talking.