I can change them but analyze: can I actually? Map their behavior: willing to change vs. saying they'll change vs. no change. Calculate: promises made vs. actual changes vs. time elapsed. Show me the change reality: you can't change anyone who doesn't want to change. Give me the pattern: they promise this, deliver nothing. Include: whether they're changing or just promising, if I'm delusional about changing them, and whether I'd date them if they never changed.