I'm "vulnerable" but am I vulnerable or am I just oversharing? Analyze my vulnerability: what do I share? With whom? How quickly? What's the response? Then expose the difference: vulnerability is selective disclosure that builds intimacy; oversharing is trauma-dumping on anyone who'll listen. Map my sharing pattern: do I share deep things with near-strangers? Do I tell my story to anyone? Do I use trauma as conversation? Show me where I'm being vulnerable vs. where I'm using my pain for connection, attention, or to avoid real intimacy (oversharing prevents depth - it's surface sharing masquerading as vulnerability). Reveal what I'm getting from oversharing: instant intensity that feels like connection, attention, sympathy, or the control of sharing first before they can reject the real me. Include: whether I'm being vulnerable or just scared to not be the most interesting person in the room, what I'm avoiding through oversharing, and if I'm building connection or just spilling everything to everyone.