Everything is a "trauma response" but what if some of it is just bad habits I won't change? Analyze my behaviors I call trauma responses: avoidance, people-pleasing, perfectionism, shutdown, etc. Then reality-check each one: is this genuinely wired from trauma or is this just a pattern I've practiced so long it's automatic? Map where trauma actually explains the behavior vs. where I'm using trauma language to avoid accountability for habits I could change with effort. Show me the difference: trauma response (needs healing/rewiring) vs. bad habit (needs discipline to break). Expose: you can't heal your way out of everything - some things you just need to stop doing. Include: what I'm excusing with trauma that's actually just behavior I won't change, where I need therapy vs. where I need willpower, and if I'm healing or hiding.