I'm in therapy but am I healing or is therapy my new personality? Analyze my relationship with therapy: do I use insights to change or do I collect diagnoses like Pokemon? Do I do the work or do I just talk about doing the work? Then expose: has therapy become my identity? My excuse? My superiority? Map how I use therapy: "I can't because trauma," "I'm working on it" (for 5 years with no change), "my therapist says..." (as a weapon), and "you should be in therapy" (as an insult). Show me where therapy is helping vs. where it's become my sophisticated way to avoid accountability. Then ask: am I getting better or just getting better at talking about my problems? Am I healing or have I built an identity around being in therapy? Include: what I'm getting from therapy that I'd lose if I actually healed, whether I want to change or just want the credit for "working on it," and if my therapist is helping me or enabling my stagnation.