I say I'm "single by choice" but am I? Or am I single by fear calling it choice? Analyze my single status: is it genuine choice or sophisticated avoidance? Map my dating patterns: am I not dating because I'm content or because I'm scared? Do I choose to be alone or do I just tell myself that after rejecting/being rejected? Then expose the truth: there's a difference between "single by choice" (actively choosing single life over partnership) and "single by avoidance" (calling it choice when it's really fear). Show me which one I am. Reveal what I'm avoiding: vulnerability, rejection, disappointment, losing independence, being known, or risking my heart. Give me the test: if the perfect person appeared, would you say yes? If yes, you're not single by choice, you're single by circumstance calling it choice. If no, why not? Include: what I'm protecting by staying single, whether I'm content or just coping, and if I genuinely choose this or just tell myself I do.