I'm "setting boundaries" but am I boundaried or just selfish? Analyze my boundaries: what are they? Who do they affect? What's the impact? Then reality-check: is this a boundary or is this just me doing whatever I want and calling it boundaries? Map each "boundary" and test it: boundaries protect your wellbeing; selfishness prioritizes your wants without regard for others. Show me the difference: "I can't work late tonight, I have plans" (boundary) vs. "I never work late because I don't want to" (might be selfish depending on job). Expose where I'm using boundary language to justify: not contributing, avoiding responsibility, prioritizing myself always, or refusing reasonable requests. Reveal: you can have boundaries AND be considerate. You can protect yourself AND care about impact. Include: whether I'm protecting myself or just being selfish with better vocabulary, where my "boundaries" are actually just entitlement, and if I'm healthy or just self-centered.