I'm polyamorous but am I poly or am I just afraid to commit to one person? Analyze my relationship pattern: why poly? What attracts me? What scares me about monogamy? Then expose: polyamory is ethical non-monogamy with intention; commitment-phobia is using poly as escape from depth. Map my poly practice: do I actually do the emotional work of multiple relationships or am I just avoiding depth with anyone? Show me the difference: true poly (capacity for multiple committed loves) vs. commitment avoidance (using poly to never fully commit to anyone). Reveal what I'm avoiding: vulnerability, being fully known by one person, dependency, or the risk of giving someone all of me. Include: whether I'm poly or just scared, what I'm avoiding through non-monogamy, and if I'm embracing abundance or running from intimacy.