I'm in a passive-aggressive cold war with [person]. Here's what's happening: [describe the behaviors, what they say vs. what they do, specific incidents, how long this has been going on, what triggered it, and previous attempts to address it]. Stop the surface-level analysis. Decode the entire psychological warfare: what are they actually angry about (translate every passive-aggressive behavior to the real grievance), why can't they be direct (their fear/history/attachment style), what power dynamic is playing out, who's "winning" this cold war and what winning even means here, what's the payoff for them keeping this indirect, and what am I doing that makes direct conflict impossible. Map the pattern: trigger → passive-aggressive behavior → my reaction → their payoff → cycle continues. Identify every manipulation tactic being used: guilt-tripping, gaslighting, stonewalling, triangulation, victim-playing. Then analyze my role: am I the target or participant? What am I avoiding by not confronting this directly? What would I lose if this resolved? Give me the intervention strategy: the direct conversation script that names the pattern without attacking, the responses to their deflection/denial tactics, the boundary implementation for when they continue the behavior, the decision tree (when to keep trying vs. when to walk away), and the emotional preparation for their reaction (they might blow up, shut down, or gaslight harder). Include: what they would say about this situation to make themselves the victim, the sentence that would end the cold war immediately (if I had the courage to say it), and the hard truth about whether this relationship can survive honesty.