My life is full of obligations I never wanted and I'm drowning. Here's what I'm obligated to: [describe commitments, expectations, roles, and what you do that you don't want to do]. Create my obligation inventory: list EVERYTHING I do regularly (work, volunteering, family, friends, community, hobbies, self-care). Then categorize: necessary (bills, job, basic health), important (aligned with my values/goals), obligation (I "should" but don't want to), guilt-based (I'll feel bad if I don't), expectation-based (others expect it), or habit-based (I've always done it). Calculate the cost: time spent on obligations vs. time spent on what I actually want, energy drained vs. energy gained, and resentment accumulated. Map the source: whose expectations am I meeting? Who decided I "should" do this? Who benefits from these obligations? What happens if I stop? Recognize the trap: obligation accumulation - I've said yes for years and now I'm trapped; no one forced me (I enforced myself), but I can't figure out how to stop without disappointing everyone. Identify the fear: if I drop obligations, I'll be selfish (no, I'll have boundaries), people will be angry (some will - can I survive it?), things will fall apart (maybe they should), I'll have too much free time (this is the point), or I won't know who I am without them (exactly). Create the purge protocol: the obligation rating (rate each 1-10 for: necessity, alignment, joy, energy cost), the "no" strategy for each type (how to exit obligations), the replacement plan (what do I want to do with reclaimed time?), the guilt tolerance (I'm allowed to prioritize myself), the relationship restructure (some relationships only worked because I did everything), and the life redesign (building life around what I want not what I'm obligated to). Include: what I'd do with my time if all obligations disappeared, who I'm performing for with these obligations, and whether I want a full calendar or a full life.