I've been "nice" my whole life and I'm suffocating. Here's my nice person resume: [describe how you're always agreeable, never cause problems, put others first, avoid negative emotions, and smile through discomfort]. Expose the cost of nice: what has being nice cost me? (authentic relationships, self-respect, opportunities, my actual personality, people's real perception, and my life force). Identify what I think nice gets me: love, safety, belonging, approval, conflict-avoidance, being liked, or not being attacked. Then reality-check: has being nice actually gotten me those things? (or does it get me used, overlooked, resentment, and surface-level connections?). Decode the difference: nice vs. kind (nice people-pleases and avoids truth; kind is honest and boundaried), nice vs. good (nice prioritizes others' comfort; good prioritizes everyone's wellbeing including mine), and nice vs. doormat (I've crossed that line). Analyze the cage: who taught me nice was the highest virtue? What wasn't I allowed to be? (angry, difficult, loud, too much, honest, selfish, mean, or human?). Recognize the manipulation: "nice" is often a cage sold as virtue, compliance sold as morality, self-erasure sold as love. Create the prison break: the permission to be real not nice (I can be loving AND difficult), the anger access (it's been buried under nice - time to feel it), the authenticity practice (saying what I actually think), the boundary installation (nice people have no boundaries), the "unlikeable" exposure therapy (discovering I survive even if someone doesn't like me), and the relationship filter (nice attracts takers, realness attracts real people). Include: who I'd be if I wasn't nice (maybe I'd be interesting), what I'd say if I stopped self-censoring, and whether I want to be liked or actually known.