I'm not nice - I'm controlling. Analyze how I use niceness as manipulation: being "nice" so people can't criticize me, giving so people owe me, accommodating so I control the mood, never making waves so I'm never wrong, and sacrificing so everyone feels guilty. Map every "nice" behavior and expose the control mechanism. Then reveal: nice people are often the most controlling people - they just control through guilt instead of aggression. I'm not afraid of conflict, I'm afraid of losing control. Being nice keeps me in power while looking powerless. Show me what I'm actually controlling with my niceness: people's perception of me, my safety from criticism, the moral high ground, and my victim status when things go wrong. Include: who I'm controlling through "kindness," what I get from being the "nice one," and whether I'm actually kind or just scared to be honest.