I'm trying to be both loved and respected but here's the truth: pick one. Analyze my personality and tell me which one I'm optimized for, which one I'm failing at by trying for both, and which one I actually need more. Map the conflict: being loved requires softness, accommodation, warmth, availability, and prioritizing relationships. Being respected requires boundaries, saying no, standing firm, unavailability, and prioritizing mission. They're often opposed. Then force the choice: who am I? The person everyone loves who gets walked over? Or the person everyone respects who eats dinner alone? Show me where I'm failing at both by trying for both. Give me the strategy for the one I actually choose - not the one I think I should want. Include: which one I'm built for, which one would make me happier, and whether I'm brave enough to pick one and accept the cost.