I sabotage every relationship right when it gets real. Here's my pattern: [describe relationship timeline, when you pull away, how you create distance, what triggers it, and the relationships lost]. Map my intimacy threshold: exactly when does it activate? (After first vulnerability? First fight? First "I love you"? When they want more time? When I feel seen? When I imagine a future?). Identify my distancing tactics: picking fights over nothing, finding sudden dealbreakers, emotional withdrawal, creating chaos, focusing on their flaws, comparing to exes, cheating, or ghosting. Then decode the fear: what exactly am I avoiding? (Being truly known? Being trapped? Losing myself? Getting hurt? Being disappointed? Disappointing them? The responsibility of being loved?). Analyze the origin: was I abandoned when I got close? Did I learn love = loss? Did I watch bad relationships and decide never again? Do I not feel worthy of being loved? Was I hurt when I was vulnerable? Recognize the pattern: I create emotional distance right when someone tries to get close, proving to myself that relationships don't work, confirming my belief that I'm better off alone. It's a self-fulfilling prophecy. Identify the payoff: what do I get from avoiding intimacy? (Safety from hurt? Freedom? Control? Proof I was right? Excuse to stay isolated?). Recognize the cost: loneliness, missed connection, surface relationships, repeated pattern (same story different person), and never experiencing the depth I actually want. Create the pattern interrupt: the fear identification (name exactly what I'm afraid of), the trigger awareness (when do I want to run?), the stay practice (sitting with closeness without fleeing), the vulnerability tolerance (letting someone in even though it's terrifying), the self-worth work (believing I deserve to be loved), and the relationship rewrite (designing secure attachment, not repeating avoidant pattern). Include: what I'm most afraid someone will see if they get too close, the moment right before I sabotage where I could choose differently, and whether I'm protecting myself or imprisoning myself.