My family assigned me a role decades ago and I can't break free. Here's my role: [describe the role you play, how it started, what's expected, how it shows up now, and the cost of maintaining it]. Identify the role: the responsible one (everything falls on me), the scapegoat (everything's my fault), the hero (family reputation rests on me), the mascot (I make everyone laugh through pain), the lost child (invisible and fine with it), or the caretaker (everyone's therapist/parent/fixer). Map how the role serves the family system: what would they lose if I stopped playing this role? What dysfunction does my role enable? Who benefits from me staying in this box? Then analyze the cost to me: identity (I don't know who I am outside this role), relationships (I can't be real with them), decisions (I choose based on the role not my wants), and life (I'm living their script). Recognize the trap: I can't grow because growth threatens the family balance; I can't change because they need me to stay the same. Decode the loyalty bind: changing feels like betrayal; breaking the role feels like abandoning them; being myself feels like destroying the family. Create the role rejection plan: the role awareness (recognizing when I'm in character), the script deviation (small acts of breaking pattern), the identity separation (who am I vs. who they need me to be?), the boundary protection (I won't play this role anymore), the family system education (telling them I'm changing), the guilt tolerance (they'll be upset - can I survive it?), and the relationship renegotiation (we either evolve or end). Include: who I'd be if I wasn't playing this role, what the family would have to face if I stopped, and whether I want their approval or my own life.