I keep attracting emotionally unavailable people and I don't know why. Here's my pattern: [describe the types of people you attract, how they're unavailable, what initially draws you to them, when you see the signs, and why you stay]. First, decode my attraction: what about emotional unavailability appeals to me? (the chase, the challenge, the fantasy potential, no real intimacy required, or familiar dynamic?). Map my history: was my parent emotionally unavailable? (We're often attracted to what we're trying to heal). Identify the signs I ignore early: they come on strong then disappear, they're hot/cold, they won't define the relationship, they're always "not ready," they're "working on themselves," they have one foot out, they keep me confused, or they're just enough to keep me hooked. Then reality-check: am I attracted to unavailable people or am I only interested when they're unavailable? (When they get available, do I lose interest?). Decode MY unavailability: might I be emotionally unavailable too? Do I want connection or the idea of connection? Am I available for an actual relationship or just performing availability? Recognize the pattern: unavailable attracts unavailable; if I keep finding emotionally unavailable people, I might be emotionally unavailable to available people. Analyze the payoff: what do I get from chasing unavailable people? (Never have to be vulnerable, get to stay in fantasy, avoid real intimacy, stay safe from actually being known, or prove I'm unlovable?). Create the pattern interrupt: the unavailability detector (learn the signs and RUN), the availability practice (dating actually available people even if they feel boring initially), the self-availability work (am I emotionally available to be seen?), the fantasy elimination (seeing people for who they are not who they could be), and the secure attachment reprogramming (available feels boring because I'm wired for chaos). Include: what I'm afraid of with actually available people, why dysfunction feels like chemistry, and whether I actually want love or just want to want it.