I'm "demisexual" but am I demisexual or is that just... how attraction works for most people? Analyze my attraction pattern: I need emotional connection before sexual attraction. Then reality-check: is this a distinct orientation or is this just not being sexually impulsive? Map where demisexual is a useful identity vs. where it's just giving a label to normal variance in attraction timelines. Expose: maybe you're not demisexual, maybe you just don't want casual sex and that's okay without a label. Show me whether this identity serves me or whether I'm over-pathologizing normal human variation. Include: whether I need this label or if I'm making my preference into an identity, what I get from the label, and if demisexual is real orientation or just personality preference.