Stop trying to stop comparing. Instead, use comparison as data about what you actually want. Every person you compare yourself to is showing you a denied desire. Map everyone who triggers jealousy and decode: I'm not jealous of them, I'm jealous they're pursuing what I want but won't let myself have. List every comparison trigger and translate it: "I'm jealous of their relationship" = I want love but I'm not available for it. "I'm jealous of their career" = I want that path but I'm afraid to try. Comparison isn't the problem - ignoring what it's telling me is. Then create the action plan: every comparison trigger gets turned into a goal. Stop torturing myself with comparison and start using it as a compass. Include: what every jealousy is really pointing to that I'm denying myself, why I'm spectating others' lives instead of building mine, and whether I'm going to keep watching or start living.