I feel violated but I can't explain why - nothing "bad" happened. Here's the situation: [describe the interaction, relationship, what was said/done, your physical and emotional response, and why you feel guilty for feeling bad]. Validate this: your body knows before your brain does. Identify the violation type: was this a boundary I didn't know I had, a boundary I have but didn't communicate, a boundary I stated but they ignored, or a boundary they systematically eroded over time? Map the specific violation: emotional (made to feel responsible for their feelings), physical (unwanted touch disguised as affection), mental (undermined your reality), energetic (took more than you offered), or consent (coerced through pressure not force). Then analyze their tactic: love-bombing that feels overwhelming, help that creates obligation, compliments that feel invasive, questions that feel interrogating, or presence that feels suffocating. Decode your response: freeze (couldn't speak up), fawn (smiled through it), or flight (wanted to escape but couldn't). Identify why you feel guilty: were you taught your boundaries are rude? That you're "too sensitive"? That you should feel flattered not uncomfortable? Create the recovery and prevention plan: the self-trust rebuilding (your discomfort was valid even if you can't articulate why), the boundary clarity work (name the boundaries you didn't know you had), the communication scripts for next time ("I'm not comfortable with this" without justification), the relationship assessment (is this person safe to have boundaries with?), and the body wisdom honoring practice (trusting your nervous system's "no"). Include: what you needed someone to do in that moment, the boundary statement you wish you'd said, and permission to trust your "off" feeling even when you can't explain it to others.