I don't have a boundary problem - I have a resentment addiction. Analyze this: what if I prefer resentment over boundaries? Map every resentment I hold and the boundary I didn't set. Then expose the payoff: resentment lets me feel superior, play victim, justify my anger, punish people silently, and avoid the vulnerability of asking for what I need. Setting boundaries would cost me all of that. I'd have to be direct, risk rejection, lose the moral high ground, and take responsibility for my needs. Resentment is easier. Show me how I'm choosing resentment over boundaries because resentment gives me something boundaries don't: permission to hate while looking blameless. Include: what I get from staying resentful, what I'd have to risk to set boundaries, and whether I want resolution or just want to feel wronged.