I blame everything on "attachment style" but what if that's just my excuse? Analyze my attachment patterns and then reality-check: am I anxiously attached or am I just choosing unavailable people? Am I avoidantly attached or do I just not like these specific people? Am I disorganized or am I in a toxic relationship? Map every behavior I attribute to attachment and separate: this is genuinely my attachment wiring vs. this is a reasonable response to a bad situation. Then expose: attachment theory has become the astrology of relationships - everyone uses it to avoid accountability. Maybe I don't have an attachment disorder, maybe I just have bad taste. Maybe it's not my "style," maybe it's my choices. Show me where attachment explains my pattern vs. where I'm using it to excuse staying with the wrong people. Include: what I'm excusing with attachment theory, where I need therapy vs. where I need better selection, and whether I'm healing my attachment or just dating the same person in different bodies.