I can't access my anger and it's leaking out in destructive ways. Here's my pattern: [describe how you suppress anger, where it leaks (passive-aggression, depression, physical symptoms, sudden explosions), and what you were taught about anger]. Identify my anger suppression style: nice (anger isn't allowed), numb (can't feel it), scared (anger is dangerous), sad (anger becomes depression), or explosive (pressure builds then erupts). Map where anger lives: in my body (tension, pain, illness), in my relationships (resentment, distance), in my behavior (passive-aggression), in my mood (depression is often anger turned inward), or in sudden eruptions (minor triggers, major reactions). Then decode the origin: what was I taught about anger? (It's bad, it's dangerous, it makes you mean, it gets you abandoned, nice people don't get angry). Was someone's anger scary? (I learned to suppress mine). Was I punished for anger? (I learned it's not safe). Did anger get me hurt? (I learned to hide it). Analyze the cost: suppressed anger becomes: depression, anxiety, physical symptoms (headaches, stomach issues, chronic pain), resentment in relationships, passive-aggression, or sudden explosions that damage relationships. Recognize that anger is information: it tells me my boundary was crossed, I was disrespected, something's unfair, I need to protect myself, or change is needed. Anger isn't the problem; suppressing it is. Create the anger access plan: the anger permission (I'm allowed to feel it), the body scan (where do I feel anger physically?), the anger expression practice (safe ways to release: journaling, movement, sound), the boundary connection (anger shows me where I need boundaries), the gradual reveal (expressing anger in safe relationships), and the explosion prevention (releasing small anger regularly prevents big blowups). Include: what I'm most angry about that I'm not letting myself feel, who taught me anger was bad, and what becomes possible when I reclaim my right to be angry.